Controversial thoughts on abuse

Now this subject is going to be controversial so if you don't want toes crunched or sacred cow beliefs killed then skip this post.  Buffer Photo is from my trip back in April from Arizona.

In last few weeks I had read a book about women and aggression it really was a very good book.  It would be an eye opener for some.  Our society in whole Christian and non-Christian seems not to believe that women can be sex offenders or even abusers.  Or if they are it is a new phenomenon.  Well it is not I know and have known of women in history (one as the early 1900's) that were abusive to men and were/are sex offenders.  Why do I bring this up?  For one reason I am sick and tired of people saying well I can't trust a man or young boy to watch my kids as they might abuse my child.  Well I personally remember an ex of mine telling me his first sexual experience was as a child by his female babysitter. His story is one reason I automatically don't trust female babysitters.   Also I had a sex offender list from one of my previous communities and on that list was a 16 year old girl her victim was a toddler.  As long as there has been sin in the world women are just as capable of the same horrific things we hear/believe men do.  And why is it we automatically believe a man has been a physical abuser of his spouse but we don't believe that a women can be an abuser.  I also knew of a women who severely beat her boyfriend at the time and was known as man beater.  Society normally laughs at the male victim or doesn't even believe him but will almost always believe and comfort the female victim.   As a mother of 4 boys I am sick of the attitude that because they are male they are automatically going to be abusers or sex offenders.  If we are going to have this attitude with men then we need to have it with women also.  Abuse is abuse no matter what the sex is of the abuser and we should treat all victims with help and grace.  There is women shelters but you don't here much about men shelters mainly because it is still an embarrassment for men to come forward after being abused.  Some don't get a chance to come forward until there girlfriend or wife kills them.   Women have a tendency to get away with it more as we still hold the adage of how gentle and sweet they are well I think that is baloney. Some of the most back-biting and nasty people I have met are women and some of the most caring and thoughtful people I have met are men.  We need to just remember that these types of sins is in all people not just men.